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A moral story about anger management

By Camilla and Shawn Fernandez

I recently read a story about anger and inner peace. I can relate to it because I have an issue with controlling my own anger, and I do look forward to effectively managing my own   problem. So here comes the story.

“Once there was a king who used to get irritated at very small things. His minister suggested him to try meditation. Therefore, the king decided to go somewhere place where he can meditate in peace.

“He travelled throughout his kingdom, but could find no such place. He moved out of his kingdom and came across a calm river surrounded by beauty. There he found a log of wood. He sat on the log of wood and rowed till he reached middle of the river. He then closed his eyes and started to concentrate. Initially he found it hard to sit in a single place and concentrate. After some time, he got used to the calmness around him. At the same time, he heard the clanking of another log with his own. Initially, he ignored it, thinking that whoever it is, will go away soon. But the chattering continued. However, after some time he started to get agitated. He opened his eyes with an intention to yell at the person who was disturbing him. But to his surprise no one was there. The log was moving because of the wind.

“At that point he realized that for inner peace, he does not need a quiet environment filled with the calmness of nature. He needs to be calm from inside. All the negativity like anger, irritation is present inside him. He cannot blame anyone for his anger. He only is responsible for his every action.”

From this, I’ve learned a couple of things:  First, whenever something or someone makes me angry, I should think before I act. Second, I do not need to trigger my anger, because this will likely will result in negative consequences. I have to consider how it will affect me. Third, I must take a timeout. If I feel my temper slowly rising, I have to remove myself from the situation completely.

Meanwhile, I realize, too, that suppressed anger can create other problems.

The goal of anger management is to reduce both our emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can’t get rid of, or avoid the things or the people that enrage us, nor can we change them, but we can learn to control our reactions.

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