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By February 17, 2014Archives, Opinion

Second (or nth) chances

JOHANNE R. MACOB

By Johanne Margarette R. Macob

HAPPY Valentine!

As I write this, I’m sure everyone is already sending one another their Valentine greetings. And perhaps, by the time this issue hits the streets, some are still celebrating the season of love. Me, I still believe in love. So there, I just sent you a Valentine wish.

A while ago, with friends, I watched this movie in this mall — which by the way has all the hearts and “all u need is love” stuff — which tackled what Valentine signifies, yes, love. I admit, I am a hopeless romantic, seeing realities and feeling the ‘love’ in romantic films.

The movie was good, not just for the actors who played in it, but mainly for its plot. Unlike other films, it went beyond showing an overrated formula of the two main characters ending up together, always. Anyway, I won’t go into details as I may pre-empt the excitement of those planning to watch it and this isn’t actually a movie review. I just want to share what I learned from it.

Oftentimes, people who love(d) truly, those who didn’t mean to lose their significant others linger on a certain kind of hope. They may not admit it, but there’s that hope of wanting to meet that person again. There is that hope for a second chance, mostly, for that another chance to get back together again, to fix what went wrong, to work out things anew.

I believe many, if not all, get to fulfil this hope for a second chance. They are able to meet the person, and sometimes they try to rekindle the romance. However, endings to these stories vary. Some end up happy together again, some end up happy with their separate lives.

The point is, second chances on love, or anything else, do not necessarily mean getting back together, or going permanently back to where you were. Sometimes, second or nth chances are given to make people realize that some things are not really meant to be, that they have to stop trying for the same ones over and over again. That there’s a better person or better place waiting to get a space in their lives.

Sometimes chances are given to two people to finally understand what went wrong in their relationships just for them to finally forgive each other and give themselves peace. Forgiving neither for getting back together nor for forgetting the love you once felt. You forgive, get forgiven, and continue loving the person, but perhaps, in a different manner. And you become, truly, alright. You then move forward easier.

Chances are one restarts a story or begins a different one. So don’t box yourself in the belief that seeing your ‘past’ again is a sign of the universe conspiring in giving you both another chance to be the ‘us’ you used to be.
Yes, sometimes, chances are simply for closure.

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